tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8253670792921517534.post315253883511542037..comments2022-11-24T06:42:15.999-05:00Comments on 'Round the Kitchen Table: When Someone You Love is Abused at WorkLaurenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13461281675925684997noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8253670792921517534.post-4781910197483718552010-07-13T20:34:03.449-04:002010-07-13T20:34:03.449-04:00I spent an hour composing a response, which I gues...I spent an hour composing a response, which I guess Bill Gates didn't want me to share and vanished into cyberspace. The short version is pray for those whose "management style" leaves something to be desired.<br /><br />God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.<br /><br /><br />Love you LolIn Search of Lighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11141524634025752296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8253670792921517534.post-8858298900524927562010-07-12T15:01:26.441-04:002010-07-12T15:01:26.441-04:00Lauren, this is how my last job was. I was there ...Lauren, this is how my last job was. I was there for 2 years, and 1 1/2 years of it was spent wondering each day what was going to set my boss off. Yes, she screamed at me. She belittled me. She had absolutely no respect for me. I had no real recourse since it was a 2-person office; her & me. Her "supervisor" was the "President" of the Association - basically a figurehead. He didn't give a hoot what she did, as long as he didn't have to get involved. I had no one higher up to go to. It's a horrible feeling, knowing you shouldn't be taking that kind of abuse day in and day out, and yet also knowing what the job market looks like and how badly you need that paycheck. I did preserve a small amount of dignity for myself when I gave her an eight-page rebuttal to a poor performance review she gave me (it was a joke). I was professional but thorough, and I stated all the ways in which that review was bullcrap. I was fired in November (to be replaced by the new President's step-daughter the next day so that my boss could get in good with him) and I still haven't found a job. It sucks. I'm sorry I don't have any suggestions or ideas, but I can feel your (and their) pain.Bev Ruhlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8253670792921517534.post-22060786522975379072010-07-11T14:45:33.915-04:002010-07-11T14:45:33.915-04:00This is a problem that has always existed and prob...This is a problem that has always existed and probably always will.<br />The only thing that I've seen make a difference is when the abused one confronts the abuser, knowing that it may cost his/her job. I've seen it work and I've seen it fail. Some people actually like to be yelled at ... confirming their feeling that they're not worth much. But the majority of people have too much self respect to endure any unacceptable behavior from anyone --boss or not --and walk away from it,if confrontation doesn't work. No job is worth it ... and no good company would allow it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17206799920926161196noreply@blogger.com